The Cost of Hiring Bad Apples

 

It’s expensive when a person makes a hiring mistake, whether it’s a corporation, a sole propreitorship, or even an individual business owner.  Researchers estimate the hard dollar costs to be 150% of the employee’s annual compensation in mid to large companies. That doesn’t even include the soft dollar costs which can be much more costly.  This also applies to domestic employment as well.

Turn Over Costs

• If the bad apple nanny stays, she/he may drive your best friends, family and co-workers away.
• If the bad apple nanny leaves, families with young children must start the hiring process all over again.

Lost Productivity

• The families spend dealing with personality conflicts.
• Distraction and lose of focus by other family members dealing with personality issues.
• If that bad apple nanny that was hired is unproductive, other people have to pick up the slack. So what’s the purpose of hiring a Nanny?
• When the team morale is low so is productivity.

Lost Revenue

• Family, Friends, Co-workers and the children especially look at the nanny’s performance as a reflection of errors and bad decisions.    Thus, the bad apple nanny can drive everyone away, including the children.
• Making a bad choice with a bad apple nanny will cost your family a lot of unnecessary aggravation.  This type of decision affects all aspects of the breadwinner’s life, which indirectly affects the children involved.

Increased Risk and Liability

Employees with personality issues increase your risk of:

• Lawsuits
• Embezzlement
• Violence
• Child Abuse
• Child Molestation

Starving For Salvation

Every human has a deep longing for something more in their life. Like a baby searching for the life-giving nipple, this urge moves to be fulfilled. Connecting to one’s Soul brings this fulfillment. When you connect to your Soul, you become aware that your life has deep meaning and purpose. As you begin to fulfill this purpose you are welcomed with a sense of fulfillment like never before.

Your Soul contains the blueprint for your life. The blueprint contains your Purpose for coming into body. It also contains all of the tools you need to fulfill this Purpose. Some of these tools are:

§             Inner guidance – the answer to your questions are waiting deep within where your Soul resides within you.

§             Empowerment – connecting with your Soul empowers the personality self in its authenticity. Ego crumbles in the light of the Soul

§             Co-creation – when you connect to the Soul, remove the blocks to your Soul, and align to your Soul, your Soul is able to shine through and co-create your outer world.

§             Love – At its essence your Soul is love. Connecting with the Soul enables Divine Love to resonate within the personality self. As Divine Love flows transforms your inner world, your outer world reflects it creating a love filled life.

At the level of the Soul, there is no separatism. All and everyone are interconnected much like a drop of color in a bucket full of white paint. The color blends with the white paint becoming one with it.   VERY DEEP.

Child Personality Styles According to Klemmer?

I am not endorsing Brian Klemmer nor his teachings, but what I did find that was universal was the personality traits in people, including children.    Guessing what kind personality your child has  is understanding how to deal with your child’s actions?   I am not sure, but here are the traits.    There may or may not be truth in this, but let’s view and decide.

 

A “Controller” personality likes control. They like to be organized, achieve results, go for the bottom line and usually think in terms of effectiveness. They are motivated by results and challenge and only want to know “what” needs to be done. Never tell them how to do something. They know how; their way.

An “Analytic” is a very even keel, reasonable and logical person. They tend to be neat, meticulous, very precise, love structure and want to know how to do something so they can do it “right”. They are slow to make a decision and are motivated by logical decisions.

A “Supporter” is a very relationship oriented person. Being in connection with you is their highest priority. They want everyone to get along and be one happy unit. What motivates them is caring and friendship.

A “Promoter” is a high energy creative, spontaneous person who loves to be different and hates structure. They are motivated by an activity being “fun” and a challenge.

So how do you recognize what personality type your child is? Klemmer’s book advises parents to look at their child’s behavior for clues.  Are they dominant or easy going? For example; if your child interrupts you during a conversation they are either a controller taking control or a promoter simply excited about something. An analytic wouldn’t do that because it violates structure and a supporter wouldn’t do it because it would risk the relationship or hurt your feelings.

 

 

 

What is your personality style?  Tell us by leaving  a comment.  

 

Boobies In A Box

Giving up the quest for a glamorous, youthful look was especially difficult for me as I had been the one of the fashionistas of my time.    At that time I vowed to never “let myself go,” and remain as youthful and glamorous as human powers would permit.

Yet, rather suddenly, more years of dying my hair passed and I found myself resenting being held hostage every six weeks to gray roots, chemicals soaking my scalp, dark stains along my hairline, and fumes in my eyes and lungs.   More and more I begrudged the societal message clouting us: “Women lose their value, beauty and worth as they age and must do their utmost to hide the fact.”  

Proof of this message drives the multi-billion dollar beauty/anti-aging industry which goads us into defying nature and negating the beauty, vitality, sexuality and worth of aging, grey-haired women.

Now it is commonplace to perpetually dye graying hair; surgically nip, tuck and lift aging faces; Botox worrisome wrinkles away; liposuction fat off thighs; enlarge small breasts; pluck “inappropriate” hairs (then draw eyebrows back on!); wear make-up with toxic ingredients; and keep wearing current clothing that was in style when we were teens. Unwittingly, we have been drawn into an anti-aging war being battled upon our bodies.

Each of us has to draw the line between wanting to look good and becoming a slave to twisted societal demands. Where do we say “Enough is enough?” Letting our gray grow is the “road less traveled.”

Society’s idea is that we must be beautiful, youthful and lithesome to be acceptable and of worth is deeply ingrained within each of us.  Why?    It can be an unnerving, shocking journey dumping our societies’ shallow values, and coming to accept our bodies as they are: gray hair, no hair, overweight, wrinkles and all.

Now, having experienced motherhood, career choices, and premature gray hair for many years,  I can say it is incredibly freeing and comfortable to be myself, just as I am.   To rise above societal beliefs and find our own intrinsic worth, beauty, vitality and sexuality let us begin with accepting, and caring for our bodies and our precious selves.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Trust your nanny …What about your husband?

You trust the Nanny with your kids, but what about your husband in the same room with your nanny?  Behind closed doors maybe?  Look in your lingerie drawers – has someone been in your lingerie drawer – look again.  It’s possible the nanny is modeling your silk lingerie for your husband during the children’s naptime?

 

It is crazy to see the multitude of headlines regarding Nannies and husbands hooking up or some accused of hooking up I should say. If worrying that the Nanny is treating the kids well isn’t enough? Now you have to worry about your man too! There is quite a list of men that have done the deed with Nanny…Robin Williams, Jude Law, Michael Jackson,  David Beckham, and the list goes on.

 

The latest headline tells us Ethan Hawke is planning to marry his pregnant (with his child) former Nanny who cared for his children with Uma Thurman, his now ex-wife. That is definitely a juicy scoop but shouldn’t we, “real” women start worrying if these glamorous, movie star women are cheated on with the Nannies? I wouldn’t let it keep me up at night but I would give it a second thought. 

 

This is just one more brick in the wall reminding us to use extra caution when selecting someone to live in your home and care for your children. You really need to not only know this person’s entire history but also trust them and get a good read of their personality. Take advantage of the tools recruiting companies and the online placement agencies are offering.  For example, Citinannies.net, an online recruiting network that connects prescreened nannies and caregivers with family employers has an excellent set of professional recruiting tools from the proprietary prescreening process  to intensive background checks and recently, pre-employment testing.  That extra step just might keep a naughty nanny out of your bedroom!