Many people today have lost jobs after decades of service; many others suffer within jobs they can see no way out of. In order to survive a painful job loss – indeed, any type of painful loss – one must grieve and come to some acceptance.
How does one find acceptance amidst the humiliation, shame, despair, fear, grief and uncertainty a job loss can invoke? How does one accept financial insecurity threatening their lives, accomplishments and family?
Rarely, can one will skip over painful feelings, wave a magic wand and create new career or dutiful employment in short order. Often, people want to escape difficult life situations avoid any sort of emotional breakdown. In reality if a person goes against the grain in resisting to accepting the situation, they find themselves fighting with their inner soul and the world around them. Accepting things and situations as they are is one major path to recover from emotional disasters.
When I went to Narcotics Anonymous, and it was written in one of the big books of Alcoholics Anonymous, “Acceptance is the answer to all my problems today… I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is suppose to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing happens in God’s world by mistake.”
How does a person force themselves into peaceful acceptance? They really can’t unless they learn to let go and letting go is a difficult major obstacle to overcome.
I’ve learned so much in the past 18 months, that we as individuals can not force ourselves to a peaceful acceptance without first experiencing a volatile emotional journey. When I started my journey towards healing from the past, I was almost forced to let go of the attempt to figure out the “whys” in everything. As I found out, a lot of people who are uncertain or have followed a volatile path in life tend to internalize everything. So I started to seek trust in myself, my decisions, and in the higher power.
I began to realize that life’s experience has a specific reason, though it may be beyond my knowledge , and to overcome my acceptance of things and situations as they are, helped pave my life in a different direction. The instant I realized that I was holding virtues that I cannot solve or understand. When I let that go, my heart healed and as a result, my life moved in a better path. I became somewhat at peace with myself, my life and my new path.
Author Unknown Wrote the following poem –
“My life is but a weaving between my Lord and me.
I cannot choose the colors He worketh steadily.
Of times He weaveth sorrow, and I in foolish pride
Forget He sees the upper and I, the underside.
Not till the loom is silent and the shuttles cease to fly
Shall God unroll the canvas and explain the reason why.
The dark threads are as needful in the
Weaver’s skillful hand
As the threads of gold and silver in the
pattern He has planned.”
I began to inspire others, young and elder, to become aware of their lives and begin the journey to healing, acceptance, and having faith in the higher power.
