I am not endorsing Brian Klemmer nor his teachings, but what I did find that was universal was the personality traits in people, including children. Guessing what kind personality your child has is understanding how to deal with your child’s actions? I am not sure, but here are the traits. There may or may not be truth in this, but let’s view and decide.
A “Controller” personality likes control. They like to be organized, achieve results, go for the bottom line and usually think in terms of effectiveness. They are motivated by results and challenge and only want to know “what” needs to be done. Never tell them how to do something. They know how; their way.
An “Analytic” is a very even keel, reasonable and logical person. They tend to be neat, meticulous, very precise, love structure and want to know how to do something so they can do it “right”. They are slow to make a decision and are motivated by logical decisions.
A “Supporter” is a very relationship oriented person. Being in connection with you is their highest priority. They want everyone to get along and be one happy unit. What motivates them is caring and friendship.
A “Promoter” is a high energy creative, spontaneous person who loves to be different and hates structure. They are motivated by an activity being “fun” and a challenge.
So how do you recognize what personality type your child is? Klemmer’s book advises parents to look at their child’s behavior for clues. Are they dominant or easy going? For example; if your child interrupts you during a conversation they are either a controller taking control or a promoter simply excited about something. An analytic wouldn’t do that because it violates structure and a supporter wouldn’t do it because it would risk the relationship or hurt your feelings.
